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Did you know that your self-esteem affects every area of your life? Your self-esteem affects the relationships around you, how you perform at your job and, if it’s too low, even your health. If you suffer from low self-esteem and want to know how to boost it, you’ve come to the right place.
I can hear your question now, “How can I boost my self-esteem if I don’t have any?” If that’s your question, you’re already on the right track! Boosting your self-esteem begins with these four self-examination questions.
Question #1: How do I talk to me?
How’s your self talk? “I can’t.” “I won’t happen for me.” “I don’t think…” Any thought or sentence that handcuffs you from the start is self-defeating. Increasing your self-esteem begins by talking yourself to your potential and beyond. “I’m supposed to be here.” “I can do this.” “What’s stopping me?” In other words, if you can get out of your own way, you may be shocked at how far you can go.
I’m not just talking about positive thinking. Having positive thoughts are great, however, I’m talking about the words you use to frame your future. The words that you speak to you can determine whether you succeed or fail in any area of your life.
Question #2: What am I doing here?
If you are reading this paragraph, you are here. If you are here, you have faced and tackled some hurdles in life. Take a look at every accomplishment in your life and then believe that you are here for a reason. I want you to believe that you have a purpose. I want you to believe that a full size mirror can tell you a wonderful story about you. I believe that you can do things that no other human being can’t.
Here’s a quick activity. I want you to write down your five best attributes. Then, get five people whose opinion you respect and ask them to write down your five best attributes. Then, compare the list and step back and prepare to be amazed!
Question #3: Am I a carbon copy?
Too many people succumb to the insecurity of who they are because of what others tell them—about them. As a result, a lot of us wind up copying what we think others will be accepting of instead of being authentic. That may work for a little while, but at the end of the day, your self-esteem winds up taking a beating -because it’s not who we are.
It’s ok to stand by yourself over an issue, whether it be political, social, economical, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you respect yourself enough to take a stand for what you believe in. There is no better feeling than knowing you took a stand for something, even if your point of view is unpopular. It’s also a boost to your self esteem.
It was John Mason who said, “You were born an original, don’t die a copy.” Be you, and I promise that everything and everyone else will fall into place accordingly.
Question #4: How do I look?
Sometimes talk shows have “makeover” episodes. Why? Because how a person looks directly affects not only how wonderful they can feel when they see themselves “dressed to kill,” but in how others respond to them as well.
Now, to elaborate, dressing to kill doesn’t mean blowing your saving account at Sears or Macy’s and loading up on $300 outfits. Would that be fun? Of course! However timely bargain shopping and some assistance from those around you who were born with “fashion” DNA genes can have you looking successful and ready to take on the world!
One of my favorite books of all time is The Art of War by Sun Tzu.
In it he says, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.”
1. What do you do well?
2. Where do you struggle?
3. Which of your attributes gives you the greatest opportunities for success?
When you ask self-examination questions, the biggest obstacle to positive change is you. The longer you have carried a negative self-image, the greater an enemy you will find within ready to fight you and resist change. That enemy wants to stay comfortably dressed in low self-esteem.
Declaration: today is a new day for you, today is ground zero for your new life path! So get a journal, find an accountability partner, answer the questions and begin to plot the course to a brand new you!